All this sounds perfect, right? If only it were that easy to do... Well, if you read my 'Moving Towards a Better Me' poem here, you'll see that trying to lead a more carefree life is something very high up on my agenda for 2016. I'm tired of feeling weighed down by the pressures of life that, ideally, shouldn't matter. I don't want to perceive the future as a burden any more; and I don't want my past to feel as though it's holding me back. I feel more determined than ever to totally transform not only how I view the world around me, but also how I view myself and the role I have to play in its functioning. Today, I wanted to share with you some of the initial steps I've taken to help lift that weight off my shoulders, and I can't wait to continue upon this journey. I already feel so much more content, and uplifted, and I hope these steps may help guide you in the same direction!
[Do you ever look back at photos and think... WHY did I not take my camera out that day? Ah well, it's still a miracle in itself we're even able to take photos, let alone on a phone. It'll do. Natures beauty speaks for itself. ]
Look forward - The more you think about the future, the less intimidating it'll become. For so long I would feel this sense of dread and anxiety whenever I looked forward... why??!
At school it's forever drummed into your head that your entire life, how your future will plan out, alllll falls down to your actions now. Whilst this can prove true to a certain extent (although, I am still a strong believer that it's never too late to change things around and move direction if you so wish), it's wrong to see your own life as one of your most daunting burdens. Since I've stopped caring so much, I feel so much more free. Free to slow down and enjoy the moments of now, rather than wasting them panicking about the future moments that I can not control either way.
Stop aiming to be perfect. - I can guarantee now that what you see as 'perfect', a lot of other people may also see as 'perfect', but then a lot of people won't alongside. The whole idea of 'perfection' is so transient and so incontrovertibly subjective, that once you begin to realise that, the sooner you start to realise that perhaps striving towards this ideology of perfection isn't all that. Don't get me wrong, I always think its a good thing to encourage yourself to motivate towards being a better you, but that doesn't necessarily need to be the you which society projects whom you 'ought' to be. As long as you focus on becoming a better, happier version of the current you, both gradually and steadily, you can't fail. I know I sound like such a parent when I say this but honestly, at the end of the day, is it really possible to fail at anything as long as you try? Just thinking that there's always ways to improve is already a step in the right direction. Try to be content with focusing on the next step, rather than pushing yourself to jump towards that unattainable final destination of 'perfection'.
Comparison isn't necessary. - Stop comparing yourself to others. They are not you, and you are not them. You're different. Whilst it can be very difficult to embrace this fact at times, I think this realisation and mindset can really change how you view your part to play in the world. I often find that comparing myself to others just makes me highlight all their pros, which in turn underlines my own perceived flaws. Just know, we're extremely self-critical creatures and whilst this can be a good thing at times, a lot of the time it can become quite discouraging and prove detrimental to our sense of self-confidence and sense of self-belief. Drop any feelings of jealousy, loathing, sadness or regret when thinking about others, and focus on comparing how you want the future you to be in comparison to the present you. This can only help project a more positive mindset, and hopefully it'll motivate you to focus on you as an individual, rather than you and your place in comparison to others.
I regret that it's taken me so long to truly recognise the importance of these aspects in moving towards living a more carefree, fun life. I don't want to feel burdened any more by things I know I have the ability to control, and I have found that since I've started to just focus on overcoming these aspects of my life, I've managed to in turn use them to my advantage in building a stronger, more confident me. I know the above may seem pretty straight forward, but sometimes I think it's safe to say that we all could do with a little reminder to highlight that, as long as we try, we really can get there.
(I just wanted to apologise in advance. I do realise that my vocabulary and grammar in this post aren't up to par with my normal standards but I've recently been dealing with some extremely sad news that has made my thoughts all a bit blah. Nevertheless, I very much enjoyed writing this, and I hope you enjoyed reading it too).